Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man-像女人一样行动，像男人一样思考-

作者：Steve Harvey

书名:Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Expanded Edition: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment《像女人一样行动，像男人一样思考，扩展版：男人对爱、性关系、亲密感和承诺的真正想法》  

中文简介：在情感关系中，女人比男人更缺乏安全感，原因是她不知道男人在想什么。在婚姻生活中，女人比男人更被动，原因是她不了解男人的行事方式。关于恋爱，关于婚姻，关于两性，女人一旦有了困惑，就会去问其他女人的意见。她们中很少有人知道，真正的答案在异性朋友那儿，因为只有男人才了解男人。《像女人一样行动，像男人一样思考》是男人对男人的深度解读。作者从一个男人的视角来告诉女人，男人通常是怎么思考问题的，他们对女人有怎样的期待；以及女人应该怎样解读男人，怎样行动才符合男人的期待。只有像男人一样思考，女人才能真正了解男人，走出情感困惑；只有像真正的女人一样行动，女人才能让自己和男人都站在正确的位置，经营好两性关系。

英文简介：Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man is a book by Steve Harvey which describes for women Harvey's concept of what men really think about love, relationships, intimacy, and commitment.

He writes:

"The problem for all too many women who call in to my radio show, though, is that they just can't get that reciprocation from men, and women then end up feeling disappointed, disenfranchised, and disillusioned by their failed relationships."

"I teach them very quickly that expecting a man to respond to them the way a woman would is never going to work. They then realize that a clear-eyed, knowing approach to dealing with men on their terms, on their turf, in their way, can, in turn, get women exactly what they want."

In his book, Harvey instructs women on how to be a "keeper" rather than a "sports fish". He asserts that men are "simple", and that women should understand that they can never be first in a man's life without understanding and accepting that men are driven by:

Who they are
What they do
How much they make

He says it's "just plain dumb" to let a man lock you into a monogamous premarital relationship, where you share a bed, bills, and even kids. The only way to convert your "committed relationship" into a marriage is to insist on setting a date for the wedding.